Sunday, August 17, 2008

Body Language prep for the Political debates and Interviews

The following is a brief lesson in NLP. This information is used to help employers, the police, security guards, and Parents detect a truthful response from a lie.

One body language indicator that was not included in this fine report was the use of the eyes in giving response. I'll make it easy:

If a person is standing in front of you and there eyes:

1. Look to the Left = It's a lie

2. Look to the Right= It's the truth

Remember it's from your point of reference so if they look to YOUR Right, it's the Truth.

Simplified : Left = Lie Right equals = Recollection (truthful)

Again it's important that you remember This is from YOUR POV. Your Right side or YOUR Left side.

VITAL CAVEAT: If the person answering is Left handed, all the above is reversed. In the picture above, Obama is looking to my Right which would indicate a truthful recollection. However; Obama is left handed. So whatever he was responding to was a "constructed" statement.

Add the other criteria mentioned below, the slow to response, the changing of the subject and most of Obama's answers were made under duress and fabricated as he went along.

Senator McCain receives Kudos for giving straight quick honest to the point answers. McCain has trouble with formal speaking. So look for the Senator to look to YOUR right frequently when he's trying to recall something. If he looks to YOUR Left, he's constructing a lie.

Keep this in mind when viewing the candidates in the debates. Don't worry about the TV Ads. The producers know this and will recut a scene if the candidate so much as moves one eye in the wrong direction

Introduction to Detecting Lies:
The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.

Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasize

Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.


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